7 Secrets to Building Unshakable Confidence

7 Secrets to Building Unshakable Confidence

1. Embrace Your Awkwardness Instead of avoiding those uncomfortable moments, lean into them. Every time you feel awkward, you’re stepping out of your comfort zone—and that’s where real growth happens. Surviving these moments makes you stronger. Awkwardness is a sign that you’re evolving, so own it.

2. Talk to Yourself—Out Loud Not just affirmations or clever quotes—I mean actual conversations with yourself. Ask yourself: Why do I feel nervous? Then answer yourself, out loud. Giving your inner voice a real voice helps you take control of your thoughts instead of letting them control you.

3. Use the Two-Minute Rule If something feels intimidating, commit to doing it for just two minutes. Once you start, you’ll find you don’t actually want to stop. Confidence comes from action, no matter how small. Taking the first step is always the hardest, but momentum takes over once you begin.

4. Master Eye Contact (with a Twist) Instead of just making eye contact, focus on the other person’s breathing. Subtly matching their breathing rhythm builds instant rapport and creates an invisible connection. This keeps you present in the conversation rather than overthinking how confident you appear.

5. Be Curious, Not Self-Conscious When you start feeling self-conscious, shift your focus outward. Ask people unexpected questions that spark real curiosity. Confidence grows when you stop obsessing about yourself and genuinely engage with others. Interest in people is magnetic—it makes you stand out without even trying.

6. Wear Clothes That Tell Your Story Stop dressing how you think you should and start wearing things that truly represent you. When your outfit reflects your personality, you’ll naturally feel more at ease and confident. Alignment between who you are and how you present yourself is powerful.

7. Practice Silent Applause This is a game-changer. When you achieve small wins, acknowledge them—even if no one else does. Silently applaud yourself, nod in recognition, or mentally say well done. Your brain responds to self-recognition, and this simple habit builds inner confidence over time.

Final Thought:

Confidence isn’t about being fearless. It’s about taking action despite the fear. These strategies aren’t just quick tricks; they’re tools that rewire how you see yourself. The more you practise them, the stronger and more unshakable your confidence becomes.

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 Mark Goode

CEO Inspired Recruitment

Mark Goode is the CEO of The Inspired Recruitment Group which originated with the inception of Inspired Selections a recruitment agency primarily focused on recruitment in the optical industry before branching out into audiology and pharmaceutical recruitment. New optical opportunities are featured daily here or if you're a business, looking for help with your recruitment needs, get in touch here