The Art of letting go

The Art of letting go

Key Lessons & How You Can Apply Them

1. Letting Go is a Choice, Not a One-Time Event

Lesson: Growth is about daily choices, not one grand moment.How to Improve:

• Build a daily check-in ritual: Ask yourself, "What do I need to let go of today?"

• Be patient with yourself — some thoughts and feelings take time to release.

• Recognise that it's OK to revisit past emotions, but don’t live there.
  

2. Attachment to the Past Creates Suffering

Lesson: Clinging to past events limits your future potential. How to Improve:

• Use past experiences for learning, not self-judgement.

• Reframe past ‘mistakes’ as vital training ground for who you are today.

• Journaling can help identify what you’re still attached to and why.
  

3. You Can't Control Everything—Accept What Is

Lesson: Resisting reality adds more pain than the situation itself.How to Improve:

• Focus on what’s in your control: effort, attitude, response.

• When facing stress, ask: “Is this something I can influence or not?” Let the rest go.

• Practice acceptance by responding to setbacks with curiosity, not criticism.
  

4. Forgiveness is for You, Not Them

Lesson: Resentment weighs you down; forgiveness frees you. How to Improve:

• Don’t wait for apologies — make peace for your own wellbeing.

• Use this especially in leadership: let go of the emotional weight from people who’ve disappointed you.

• View forgiveness as a strength, not a weakness.
  

5. Detachment Doesn’t Mean Indifference

Lesson: You can care without letting emotions control you. How to Improve:

• Set emotional boundaries — especially with people who drain your energy.

• Use detachment to stay objective in decision-making.

• Care deeply, but don’t lose your centre in chaos.
  

6. Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality

Lesson: What you focus on, you feel — and what you feel, you live. How to Improve:

• Become more conscious of your self-talk. Is it empowering or destructive?

• Challenge thoughts that are fear-based or rooted in scarcity.

• Feed your mind with positive, grounded inputs — audiobooks, affirmations, or journaling prompts that reflect where you want to go.
  

7. Inner Peace Comes from Acceptance and Presence

Lesson: Being present reduces anxiety and amplifies clarity. How to Improve:

• Incorporate moments of mindfulness throughout your day — even 2–5 minutes of breathing between meetings or before big conversations.

• Create space to feel rather than always fix.

• Practice gratitude — it pulls you out of your head and back into your life.
  

The Learning Process: Turn Insights Into Daily Action

1. Reflection Journal (5 mins daily)

   • What am I holding onto that’s no longer serving me?

   • What’s one thing I can accept today instead of resist?

2. Morning Mindset Reset

   • Visualise releasing old attachments and stepping into the mindset you need that day.

3. Evening Debrief

   • What did I try to control that I could’ve let go of?

   • Did I live in the moment, or was I stuck in the past/future?

4. Monthly “Let Go List”

   • Write down what’s stealing your peace or clarity — relationships, worries, grudges — and actively let go.

This isn't about becoming passive or careless — it’s about removing the emotional noise so you can lead with clarity, purpose, and impact. Letting go doesn’t weaken you. It sharpens you.

Mark Goode CEO, Inspired Recruitment Changing the way recruitment works. Making it personal.

Mark Goode is the CEO of The Inspired Recruitment Group which originated with the inception of Inspired Selections a recruitment agency primarily focused on recruitment in the optical industry before branching out into audiology and pharmaceutical recruitment. New optical opportunities are featured daily here or if you're a business, looking for help with your recruitment needs, get in touch here