The Power to Own Your Reactions

The Power to Own Your Reactions

Core Message:If your happiness depends on the actions of others, then your happiness is not in your control. That’s a dangerous place to be. You can’t control others – but you can always control how you react.

Lesson Summary

Too many people allow their emotional state to be dictated by what someone else says or does. This creates a life of chaos, anxiety, and powerlessness.

The truth is this:

• You don’t control what people say.

• You don’t control what people do.

• But you do control how you react.

• And you absolutely control what you think, believe, and act upon.

When your confidence, mood, or self-worth is tied to external approval, you’ll constantly feel unsettled. If someone praises you, you feel good. If someone criticises you, you fall apart. That’s not strength – that’s dependency.

Reframe Your Power

Instead of saying:

• “They made me feel like this...”

  
  

  Try saying:

• “I chose to react like this – next time, I’ll choose better.”

Instead of thinking:

• “I need them to love me to feel lovable...”

  
  

  Start believing:

• “I love and respect myself. Anyone else’s love is a bonus, not a requirement.”

Key Training Points

1. Happiness is an Inside Job

   Don't outsource it. Connect your happiness to your actions, not someone else's behaviour.
   

2. Reaction is Your Superpower

   Every moment gives you a choice – will you react emotionally, or will you respond powerfully?
   

3. Approval Starts with You

   If you don’t respect yourself, no one else’s respect will stick. Build your self-worth from within.
   

4. You Attract What You Radiate

   Energy is contagious. Show confidence, self-love, and respect, and watch what returns to you.
   

5. Strength is Stillness

   The calmest person in the room often holds the most power. You don’t need to prove yourself – just know yourself.
   

Exercise: Real Power Reflection

Ask yourself:

• When did I last give someone else control of my mood?

• How could I have responded differently?

• What’s one area in my life where I’ll stop needing external validation and start trusting my own voice?
  

Mantra to Remember

“I don’t control others – I control me. My reaction is my power.”

Mark Goode CEO, Inspired Recruitment Changing the way recruitment works. Making it personal.

Mark Goode is the CEO of The Inspired Recruitment Group which originated with the inception of Inspired Selections a recruitment agency primarily focused on recruitment in the optical industry before branching out into audiology and pharmaceutical recruitment. New optical opportunities are featured daily here or if you're a business, looking for help with your recruitment needs, get in touch here