The Triangle Method

The "triangle method" is often a communication or rapport-building technique that focuses on creating a deeper connection by engaging someone in a structured, intentional way. While it's not universally defined, here’s how it is generally understood when applied to getting people to like or "love" you in a social or professional context:

1. Attention to Body Language (Eye Contact)

1. Imagine a triangle formed by the other person’s eyes and mouth. When engaging with someone, maintain a natural and dynamic gaze within this triangular area.

2. This avoids intense, uncomfortable staring and creates the impression of genuine interest.

3. By subtly shifting your gaze within the triangle, you appear more attentive and engaged.

   
   

2. Emotional Connection

1. Focus on establishing trust and making the other person feel understood. This can involve:

   • Active listening: Show genuine curiosity about their thoughts and feelings.

   • Matching their energy or tone: This fosters a sense of similarity and rapport.
     

2. The "triangle" here symbolises three key elements of connection: empathy, trust, and interest.
   

3. Positive Reinforcement (Balance of Words and Actions)

1. Compliments and validation: Highlight their strengths or achievements to make them feel valued.

2. Non-verbal cues: Smiling, nodding, or mirroring their gestures builds a sense of familiarity and comfort.

3. Show consistency between what you say and how you act, reinforcing your sincerity.

Here are some practical examples of using the "triangle method" in different contexts to build connection and rapport:

1. In a Social Setting

Scenario: Meeting someone at a party.

1. Eye Contact (Triangle Focus):

   
   

   While they’re speaking, maintain eye contact, naturally shifting your gaze between their eyes and mouth. This shows you're fully engaged without being intense.

   Example: If they’re smiling while talking, let your gaze briefly follow their smile before returning to their eyes.
   

2. Emotional Connection:

   If they share something personal, validate their feelings or respond with curiosity.

   Example: "That’s so interesting! How did you get into that hobby?"

   
   

3. Positive Reinforcement:

   Find something specific to compliment.

   Example: "You have such a great way of telling stories—I feel like I’m right there with you!"
   

2. In a Professional Setting

Scenario: Networking at a business event.

1. Eye Contact (Triangle Focus):

   Keep your gaze steady and purposeful as they speak, ensuring you're attentive.

   Example: Look at their eyes when they make an important point, and briefly glance at their mouth when they pause.
   

2. Emotional Connection:

   Show interest in their work or goals by asking thoughtful follow-up questions.

   Example: "You mentioned you’re launching a new product. What’s been the most exciting part of that process for you?
   

3. Positive Reinforcement:

   Compliment their expertise or achievements.

   Example: "Your experience in [industry] is incredible—it’s clear you’re passionate about what you do."
   

3. In a Romantic Context

Scenario: On a date.

1. Eye Contact (Triangle Focus):

   Use a softer gaze, moving between their eyes and mouth to create warmth and connection.

   
   

   Example: When they laugh, briefly focus on their mouth before returning to their eyes, mirroring their joy.
   

2. Emotional Connection:

   Be genuinely curious about their experiences and validate their feelings.

   
   

   Example: "That sounds like such a meaningful experience. How did it shape the way you see things now?"
   

3. Positive Reinforcement:

   Compliment something personal, like their laugh, style, or perspective.

   
   

   Example: "You have such a great laugh—it’s contagious!"
   

4. Building Trust in a Team

Scenario: Talking to a colleague or employee.

1. Eye Contact (Triangle Focus):

   Maintain steady eye contact when discussing important matters, showing respect and attentiveness.

   Example: While they’re explaining a challenge, focus on their eyes to show you value their input.
   

2. Emotional Connection:

   Address their concerns empathetically and offer solutions.

   Example: "I can see how that situation would be frustrating. Let’s work together to fix it."
   

3. Positive Reinforcement:

   Highlight their contributions and efforts.

   Example: "You’ve done an amazing job handling this project under pressure—it’s not easy, and it doesn’t go unnoticed."
   

By combining these techniques, you’ll create a sense of trust, warmth, and connection that naturally makes people feel drawn to you.

Mark Goode

CEO Inspired Recruitment

Mark Goode is the CEO of The Inspired Recruitment Group which originated with the inception of Inspired Selections a recruitment agency primarily focused on recruitment in the optical industry before branching out into audiology and pharmaceutical recruitment. New optical opportunities are featured daily here or if you're a business, looking for help with your recruitment needs, get in touch here